Ma Chi, the Ferrari driver was in the wrong. He was speeding, he ran a red light and he killed 3 people, including himself. He’s at fault.
Recently, Ma Chi’s wife said:
“We express our deepest apologies to the families of the deceased driver and his female passenger. We will not shun our responsibility towards them and will take appropriate measures at a later date.”
Mrs. Ma was not responsible for the deaths. Her husband was. If I just isolate her and not look at her in the context of her husband, this is what I see. A woman who is expecting a child any moment, who lost her husband, probably wondering who the woman in the car with her husband was and affected by all the conversations online.
Yes, it took a while for her apology but she was definitely in a heavily distressed state. But, she apologised.
At the same time the widow of Cabbie Cheng exhibited tremendous grace and said her family does not blame anybody and she wants to let the matter rest to move on with life.
Two distressed widows. Neither of them at fault. Yes, Mrs. Ma’s husband is culpable and I don’t deny that. But Mrs. Cheng does not blame and she wants the matter to rest.
There is a beauty in this ugliness that we cannot miss – the willingness of Mrs. Ma to accept responsibility in her grief and the ability of Mrs. Cheng to forgive in her grief.
That is beautiful.
Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.